There comes a moment in healing when you realize you’re no longer tending to the wounds of your inner child — you’re standing as the woman she grew into. For a long time, speaking the truth felt like survival. Silence felt dangerous. Not because I was hiding anything — but because I was taught thatContinue reading “Note from the author”
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Part 2: How to Know What Layer You’re In (Before You Apply the Lesson)
Why misidentifying your layer keeps you stuck—even when you’re doing everything “right” If Part 1 resonated, this part answers the next question most people ask—sometimes without realizing it: “Okay… but how do I know where I actually am?” This matters more than most people understand. Because when you misidentify your layer, you don’t just feelContinue reading “Part 2: How to Know What Layer You’re In (Before You Apply the Lesson)”
Part 1: When Truth Is Placed in the Wrong Layer
Not all truth heals at the same time.
This piece explores why advice that is technically “right” can still cause harm when it’s applied too early—or to the wrong layer of healing.
A Letter I Wrote But Never Sent
Sometimes on the journey things get heavy, and when they did, I would turn on voice to text and just “talk” into my notes section of my phone, not just to document the thoughts so I would remember it later, but because when I said it out loud, not only did I feel like itContinue reading “A Letter I Wrote But Never Sent”
Part 4: Boundaries & Alignment
This was the turning point for me—the layer that finally led me to becoming healthy, and ultimately to healing. For me, alignment came before boundaries. Especially at the beginning of my healing journey, when I was consciously trying to understand what was wrong and why my life felt so misaligned. And I fumbled this—often. AlignmentContinue reading “Part 4: Boundaries & Alignment”
Silence & Solitude — Part II
The Clarity It Brings After healing, silence and solitude stop being something you enter — and start becoming something you live from. The noise doesn’t disappear overnight. What changes is how your body responds to it. I started noticing clarity first in my reactions. Things that once sent me into panic, over-explaining, or shutdown no longer had theContinue reading “Silence & Solitude — Part II”
Silence & Solitude
After Healing Silence and solitude after healing are very different than the silence that comes before it. This kind of solitude didn’t arrive because I collapsed or gave up. It came after healing — when I slowly stepped back into the world with new awareness, healthy boundaries, and a nervous system that was no longerContinue reading “Silence & Solitude”
Healing Layers — Part Four
From Survival to Living When I was in survival mode, I don’t know that I consciously thought about it this way at the time. But looking back, survival looked like constant planning, rigid structure, and never truly resting. Everything had to be done by a certain time—usually by Sunday evening—so I could finally “relax.” SaturdaysContinue reading “Healing Layers — Part Four”
Healing Layers – Part 3: Waiting, Boundaries & Integration
Integration was the part of healing I didn’t expect. After the unraveling… after the awareness… after the realization that so much of my life had been lived in survival… There came a quiet. At first, it felt unfamiliar — almost unsettling — because for so long my body had only known chaos, anxiety, and constantContinue reading “Healing Layers – Part 3: Waiting, Boundaries & Integration”
🌿 HEALING LAYERS – PART 1Â
Where My Healing Truly Began: January 2024 Healing isn’t linear, and this reflection comes from a real moment in my journey. I share it as lived experience—honest, unfiltered, and still unfolding. January 2024 was the moment everything inside me began to overflow. What I thought was a mental spiral was actually my nervous system reachingContinue reading “🌿 HEALING LAYERS – PART 1 “
The Honest Healing Journey with Kristi 