Tag Archives: mental-health

Before I Share My Story, There’s Something You Need to Understand About Healing

Healing isn’t failing — it’s often misunderstood. This post offers context before personal stories are shared, exploring why healing advice doesn’t always land and how timing, safety, and nervous system readiness matter

Note from the author

There comes a moment in healing when you realize you’re no longer tending to the wounds of your inner child — you’re standing as the woman she grew into. For a long time, speaking the truth felt like survival. Silence felt dangerous. Not because I was hiding anything — but because I was taught thatContinue reading “Note from the author”

What People Pleasing Really Is: A Trauma Response Born in a Childhood That Never Felt Safe

Intro: People often misunderstand people-pleasing. They think it means you’re “too nice” or “too giving.” But people-pleasing is not a personality trait—it’s a survival strategy learned in childhood when your emotional needs were ignored, mocked, dismissed, or punished. A child who grows up unseen and unheard does not learn resilience; they learn adaptation. They learnContinue reading “What People Pleasing Really Is: A Trauma Response Born in a Childhood That Never Felt Safe”

When Your Life Is Built on Beliefs That Aren’t Yours

For a long time, I didn’t realize that not all beliefs are self-generated. Some are inherited. Some are absorbed. Some are taught so early and so consistently that we never question where they came from — we just assume they’re truth. We’re told how life is supposed to look. How work should feel. What successContinue reading “When Your Life Is Built on Beliefs That Aren’t Yours”

Part 2: How to Know What Layer You’re In (Before You Apply the Lesson)

Why misidentifying your layer keeps you stuck—even when you’re doing everything “right” If Part 1 resonated, this part answers the next question most people ask—sometimes without realizing it: “Okay… but how do I know where I actually am?” This matters more than most people understand. Because when you misidentify your layer, you don’t just feelContinue reading “Part 2: How to Know What Layer You’re In (Before You Apply the Lesson)”

Part 1: When Truth Is Placed in the Wrong Layer

Not all truth heals at the same time.
This piece explores why advice that is technically “right” can still cause harm when it’s applied too early—or to the wrong layer of healing.

A Letter I Wrote But Never Sent

Sometimes on the journey things get heavy, and when they did, I would turn on voice to text and just “talk” into my notes section of my phone, not just to document the thoughts so I would remember it later, but because when I said it out loud, not only did I feel like itContinue reading “A Letter I Wrote But Never Sent”

From Unhealthy to Healthy: Where Healing, Alignment, and Faith Meet

When Faith Is Taken in Pieces, It Loses Its Power Not everything that was done in my life was wrong. But a lot of it wasn’t right either. Some of it wasn’t healthy. And some of it wasn’t biblical. When faith is taken in pieces—out of context and without intention—it loses its strength. It stopsContinue reading “From Unhealthy to Healthy: Where Healing, Alignment, and Faith Meet”

Part 4: Boundaries & Alignment

This was the turning point for me—the layer that finally led me to becoming healthy, and ultimately to healing. For me, alignment came before boundaries. Especially at the beginning of my healing journey, when I was consciously trying to understand what was wrong and why my life felt so misaligned. And I fumbled this—often. AlignmentContinue reading “Part 4: Boundaries & Alignment”

Part 3: Trauma & Awareness

Triggers, CPTSD, nervous system realizations, and the patterns I couldn’t see until I became healthy Part 1 of my healing was silence. Not the cold kind of silence—more like solitude. Space. Safety. Part 2 was the mindset shift that changed everything: There are only two states in this world—healthy and unhealthy. That applies to physicalContinue reading “Part 3: Trauma & Awareness”