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Before I Share My Story, There’s Something You Need to Understand About Healing

Healing isn’t failing — it’s often misunderstood. This post offers context before personal stories are shared, exploring why healing advice doesn’t always land and how timing, safety, and nervous system readiness matter

Note from the author

There comes a moment in healing when you realize you’re no longer tending to the wounds of your inner child — you’re standing as the woman she grew into. For a long time, speaking the truth felt like survival. Silence felt dangerous. Not because I was hiding anything — but because I was taught thatContinue reading “Note from the author”

What People Pleasing Really Is: A Trauma Response Born in a Childhood That Never Felt Safe

Intro: People often misunderstand people-pleasing. They think it means you’re “too nice” or “too giving.” But people-pleasing is not a personality trait—it’s a survival strategy learned in childhood when your emotional needs were ignored, mocked, dismissed, or punished. A child who grows up unseen and unheard does not learn resilience; they learn adaptation. They learnContinue reading “What People Pleasing Really Is: A Trauma Response Born in a Childhood That Never Felt Safe”

When Your Life Is Built on Beliefs That Aren’t Yours

For a long time, I didn’t realize that not all beliefs are self-generated. Some are inherited. Some are absorbed. Some are taught so early and so consistently that we never question where they came from — we just assume they’re truth. We’re told how life is supposed to look. How work should feel. What successContinue reading “When Your Life Is Built on Beliefs That Aren’t Yours”

Part 2: How to Know What Layer You’re In (Before You Apply the Lesson)

Why misidentifying your layer keeps you stuck—even when you’re doing everything “right” If Part 1 resonated, this part answers the next question most people ask—sometimes without realizing it: “Okay… but how do I know where I actually am?” This matters more than most people understand. Because when you misidentify your layer, you don’t just feelContinue reading “Part 2: How to Know What Layer You’re In (Before You Apply the Lesson)”

Part 1: When Truth Is Placed in the Wrong Layer

Not all truth heals at the same time.
This piece explores why advice that is technically “right” can still cause harm when it’s applied too early—or to the wrong layer of healing.

Faith & Healing

Finding Faith During Healing: When God Felt Like Punishment, Not Peace When Faith Felt Like a Love–Hate Relationship Finding my faith during healing did not come easily. For most of my life, my relationship with God was a love–hate one. I always believed He existed. During good times, I believed He was with me. ButContinue reading “Faith & Healing”

From Unhealthy to Healthy: Where Healing, Alignment, and Faith Meet

When Faith Is Taken in Pieces, It Loses Its Power Not everything that was done in my life was wrong. But a lot of it wasn’t right either. Some of it wasn’t healthy. And some of it wasn’t biblical. When faith is taken in pieces—out of context and without intention—it loses its strength. It stopsContinue reading “From Unhealthy to Healthy: Where Healing, Alignment, and Faith Meet”

Healthy Comes Before Healing

A Sunday Reflection For a long time, I believed healing meant I had to be “fixed” before I could move forward—before a new relationship, a new job, or a new chapter of life. But healing doesn’t start there. Healing begins with becoming healthy. When you are unhealthy—mentally, emotionally, or spiritually—you don’t heal. You stay stuck.Continue reading “Healthy Comes Before Healing”