When Faith Is Taken in Pieces, It Loses Its Power
Not everything that was done in my life was wrong.
But a lot of it wasn’t right either.
Some of it wasn’t healthy.
And some of it wasn’t biblical.
When faith is taken in pieces—out of context and without intention—it loses its strength. It stops guiding and starts controlling. And people get hurt.
You can’t go to church on Sunday and live disconnected from God the rest of the week and call that walking with Him.
Church attendance doesn’t make someone godly.
Daily intention does.
Walking with God is lived.
It’s practiced.
It’s relational.
God Never Put People in Charge of Other People’s Souls
God didn’t create people to manage other people’s lives because He was busy elsewhere.
Scripture consistently shows that God wants each person to come directly to Him—in pain, sorrow, confusion, joy, growth, and celebration.
When parents, leaders, or institutions place themselves between God and another person’s alignment, that isn’t biblical authority.
That’s control.
Guidance is godly.
Control is not.
This Isn’t a Mental Health Crisis — It’s an
Unhealthy
One
The struggle isn’t mental health itself.
It’s unhealthy mental health—formed in environments where identity was assigned instead of discovered.
I don’t care what diagnosis you name. At different points in my life, I could have carried many of them.
Not because I was broken.
But because I was overwhelmed—trying to survive noise, pressure, and expectations that didn’t align with who I was.
Unhealthy minds cannot access clarity.
They cannot access alignment.
And they often cannot access God clearly either.
That doesn’t mean God isn’t there.
It means survival mode blocks the ability to feel Him.
Healing Begins When You Move From Unhealthy to Healthy
Here’s the part that matters deeply:
Once you move from unhealthy to healthy, everything changes.
Healing becomes more natural.
Trauma responses soften.
Triggers lessen—or when they do appear, they don’t control you the same way.
This is true in mental health.
And it’s true in faith.
Once you’re grounded and healthy, you finally see what God was teaching all along:
Life includes sorrow, pain, grief, loss, divorce, disappointment, and joy, excitement, purpose, and growth.
God never promised the absence of pain.
He promised His presence through it.
But when you’re unhealthy, you can’t reach that truth.
It’s impossible.
To reach your potential—spiritually or emotionally—you must first step from unhealthy into healthy.
Once you do, the rest begins to flow.
Why Success Is Sometimes Quiet
This is why milestones—like graduation, healing breakthroughs, or personal achievements—don’t always feel like something we want to share widely.
Because the people who want to celebrate the outcome weren’t always present for the process.
In some cases, they were actively trying to force us off the very road that led to our healing.
So when success comes, it isn’t about proving anything.
It’s not ego success.
It’s not “see, I told you so” success.
It’s alignment success.
I didn’t succeed because I stuck with what you wanted.
I succeeded because I finally stuck with what aligned with me.
That isn’t selfish.
That’s stewardship of your soul.
Alignment Is Personal — Even Within Families
God did not design us to be the same—not even within the same family.
Our souls are different.
Our callings are different.
Our alignments are different.
When you force someone out of their alignment—whether you believe you’re right or not—you interfere with lessons that belong to them.
And the only thing they learn from that is how to let you go.
Sometimes temporarily.
Sometimes permanently.
Because once someone becomes healthy, they see clearly.
And not everyone makes it to that place—because believing you have no purpose, no voice, and no worth can become unbearable.
That’s why this matters.
A Question Every Parent Must Ask
Before pushing.
Before correcting.
Before insisting you know better.
Ask yourself:
Am I doing the godly thing…
or the ego-driven thing?
Am I guiding—or controlling?
Am I encouraging—or forcing?
Am I walking beside—or standing in the way?
God does not control.
He invites.
And that invitation is where healing begins.
A Note for Those Who Aren’t Ready for Faith Yet 🤍
I know what it’s like to be depressed and unhealthy.
I didn’t trust many people during that time—and that included God.
So this isn’t about forcing belief.
It’s about sharing lived experience.
Not to persuade.
Not to influence.
But to say:
I know where you are, because I’ve been there. ❤️🩹
Shared from lived experience, not professional advice.
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